“He is not ready for a relationship now…”
Q: I’m an 18-year-old girl who is in love with this guy. I told him how I felt and that I want a relationship because we have a “flirationship” for a while. He says he is not ready for a relationship now but will tell me when he is ready. I have tried to get over him but every time I see him or we are together I just grow fonder of him. I don’t know what to do.
A: The solution to this situation is within yourself, and by that I simply mean that you need to recognise your own self-worth and ask yourself if this is something that is worth your time and energy. You cannot make someone love you if they are not interested in you in that way.
On the other hand, it is important to understand where he is coming from as well, and if he’s not ready for a relationship at the moment but you are, then it’s not a good idea to push him, as the more you show him how persistent you are, the less he will want to pursue anything serious. If he is “the one” it will happen when the time is right. It’s important that you trust that the right things happen at the right time for the right reasons. You have done everything you can for now, and must trust that if he does become ready for a relationship, he will tell you, just as he said he would.
In the meantime, take good care of yourself. Don’t see this as a rejection – everyone is in different places in their lives, and it is important that we respect that.