“My parents have said that I have to break up with him”
Q: I have this boyfriend and we have been together for 3 months. Now my parents say that I have to break up with him but I feel like I love him. I’m in love for the first time and I have no idea what to do. Some of my friends say I should just break up with him, and some suggest I stay with him but just keep it a secret from my parents. I’m so lost! Help!
A: You don’t mention the reasons that your parents think you need to break up, but I’d guess they have some good ones if they aren’t happy with you dating him. My gut feel is honestly to trust your parents’ judgement. I also hate to admit it, but they are often right about these things. Also parents often see things in friends and boyfriends, that we struggle to see because of our emotional connection to the person. I’m also interested in the fact that some of your friends are telling you to break up with this boy – something about this whole scenario just doesn’t sound quite right. He clearly has some qualities that aren’t popular with the people who care about you.
It is going to be really hard to get over someone you have fallen in love with, but there will be someone else for you, and he might be the one. Nurse your broken heart and move on. The only other alternative is really to have a proper conversation with your parents to see if you can come to some kind of compromise. Don’t lie to them – this always ends badly. We’re sending you lots of hugs!