Have you ever been in a situation where you felt that there was absolutely no way out? For some reason you just couldn’t move forward? You could have experienced a break up with someone whom you cared about, or maybe you lost a friend, or a job…
I believe that when you experience a situation which hurts you deeply, you need to let it hurt for a while. Cry, eat icecream, mourn! Realise what went wrong and what mistakes were made. Learn from these mistakes. Come to terms with whatever your loss may be and work through it. Life is about experiencing the hardships and yet being able to stand up and try again.
Keep a journal or a diary. Writing is an excellent way to pour out your pain. A journal is safe in the sense that it’s yours and will not be read by anyone else. You can reveal your deepest emotions without fear about how people will perceive you and over time it will become so much easier to deal with your issues.
But remember not to waste too much time mourning. At some point you have to realise that life does indeed go on, and it’s not going to stop and wait for you to get back up again. You need to embrace how beautiful this life really is and no matter what it is that you lose, remember that you’re lucky to still be here. Life is amazing and you definitely do not want to be missing out on it.
Also, never ever forget that your friends and family are always there for you. Avoid spending time alone and instead spend time with those people who care for you and will support you no matter what happens.
Have positive conversations. Avoid talking and thinking about your loss and focus on your future. It will be difficult, but embrace the fact that everything in life happens for a reason and if you lose something you can be positive that there’s something a lot better coming your way. Helen Keller once said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
Keep yourself occupied whenever you can. Channel whatever anger, sadness or frustration you have into yoga, hiking, cooking… The world is YOUR oyster! Fill your time with numerous activities, both old and new.
If you don’t want to try a new activity then why not be of service to those who are less fortunate than yourself? There is no better way to get over feeling sorry for yourself. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, children’s shelter, hospital or even a library.
At the end of the day, only you have the power to allow yourself to move on. Have patience and let go of all your negative thoughts. “Pack” your troubles into a box and remove them from your life. Before you know it, your losses will be a thing of the past and you will be able to live the amazing life that you deserve.
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” – Albert Einstein
By Aarifah Suliman