We have all been hurt by someone at some point. We have felt pain, betrayal, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, deceit and so much more. Sometimes the pain is inflicted by the people that we love the most. But no matter what the circumstances are or how much it hurts, we have to learn to let go.
Holding unnecessary grudges has many negative effects on us. It distracts us from what’s really important and can destroy close relationships. Holding a grudge is the main cause for unhappiness. We sometimes obsess so much over our enemies that we fail to notice our amazing lives which are passing us by.
Forgiving a person who hurt you is extremely difficult to do but when you do forgive, it can change your life. It can and will make you feel happy and free. Think about it, we’ve all been insensitive, selfish and thoughtless at some point and to carry around anger for someone else who’s been that way is a waste of good quality time. We are all human, all imperfect and we are allowed to make mistakes.
Realise that the hate that you feel towards your rivals doesn’t affect them or their lives. Hating another person harms no one but yourself. But if the anger and hate is too much to let go off why not turn it into something productive? Take up a sport or join an art class. Instead of making your enemies’ lives worse why not try to make your own better?
In fact, the best ‘revenge’ against an enemy is to live a happy life. Show your enemies that the obstacles they placed in your way were insignificant and that you can overcome them and be successful on your own.
Commit yourself to letting go. Forgiveness won’t happen overnight, especially not if you’ve been holding a grudge for a long time. Be patient with yourself, focus on your present, forget about the past, find the joys in your life right now. Accept that it’s over and that what has been done cannot be taken back, so stop brooding about the past.
It honestly takes less energy to forgive a person than it does to remain angry with them. So forgive your enemies. Don’t do it for them, do it for you!
You will feel a lot better if you can convince yourself to be the better person. Keep in mind that ‘an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind’. Come to the realisation that at the end of a lifetime nobody wishes that he/she had stayed angry longer. People usually wish that they had apologised earlier or had forgiven when they had the chance to. So let go of your past, forgive, forget and live for yourself. Nothing will make you feel happier.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ~Mahatma Gandhi
By Aarifah Suliman