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Dr Love: Am I wrong

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for four months. I’m certain I love him, but I’m not sure he feels the same amount of love. Anyway, I feel trapped. Usually, when I take too long to answer his texts because I’m busy with something else, he gets really upset and we end up fighting. I drop it because I know about his past and how many times he got hurt and cheated on. But he also just disappears and it takes him an hour to reply. I decided to confront him about it. He said that I’m in the wrong, that I never trust him and that I don’t try in our relationship. Am I just paranoid or what? I’m lost…

A: Well, I think you’re certainly trying to make it work from your end, as you’re able to recognise what’s wrong and you’ve tried to communicate with him. While your efforts may have been in vain, I strongly suggest that you continue to work at it in this way. Relationships require a lot of work in terms of communication, openness and honesty in particular. I believe that you need to take a stand for yourself and the relationship by having a go at confronting him again. However, it’s vital that you make it clear to him that you initiated this discussion for a particular purpose, so you want to be able to express yourself and have him listen to your concerns. You need to let him know how you feel, and how you think things between the two of you could improve moving forward. With reference to what he has said about how you make him feel, I suggest you think about this and see if there’s any truth to what is being said. At the end of it all, a healthy relationship works best with compromise from each partner.

Answered by Ralph Moodley

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