Q: I am dating this guy who is a year older than me; I really like him and I know he also likes me. Since the day my boyfriend and I started dating, my friends have been horrible to him, more than usual. I begged them to stop but they won’t listen. I don’t know if I must break up with because my friends don’t want to hang out with me anymore. What should I do?
A: When I read your message I’m thinking your problem is with your friends not your boyfriend. It sounds like they don’t respect you. I hear that you have already addressed this with them and even so they continue to disregard your feelings. This is a tough one, but I think you need to address what your friendship means to them, and see if it means something different to you than it does to them. Having said that, I think it is also worth exploring with them what their issue is. Are they worried about you? Do they know something about your boyfriend that makes them anxious? Or are they just jealous? If it’s the latter you might have to get a new groups of friends who really care about your happiness.