Q: I’m 16 and I’m dating this guy. We are very different. I talk a lot and he doesn’t. We are in the same school. I do lots of sports and that means I’m often away on trips. Sometimes it’s only a weekend, sometimes more. It seems to me that even when we don’t see each other, when we get back we don’t have much to talk about. I really like this guy and we’ve only been together for two months now. I don’t want to lose him. What must I do? I’m sick of making convo and it feels like he’s not trying.
A: This is a tricky one because often couples who are opposites balance each other out. However, I hear that you need to connect with him through conversation. I’m wondering if this is something you can make him aware of? Ask him to really make an effort to chat with you. Tell him you need him to share more about himself with you. If this does not change you will have to consider that it might be a deal breaker. You will always be searching for a connection and it will frustrate you. Hopefully it works out.